Freud wrote that love involves the undervaluation of reality and the overvaluation of the desired object. While the correct valuation of a person is an odd, if not impossible idea, we might say Freud meant something like this: for various reasons, many of them masochistic, we become involved with others who cannot possibly give what we ask for; we can wait as long as we wish, but they do not have it, and one day, if we bear to abandon our fantasy and see clearly, we might face reality straight on. We will then look elsewhere for fulfillment, to a place where our needs can, in fact, be satisfied. Hanif Kureishi
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The word love has been around for centuries and we have always been fascinated by it. But it is no wonder, as we see so many different meanings associated with this word. On the most basic level, love is a feeling or an experience that most people would say is very important in their lives. Love is a strong emotion that affects our happiness and is the basis of romance and commitment.

However, there are many forms of love that people can experience. In the first example, Freud was discussing a type of love that he called "unconditional" love. This form of love is unconditional because it does not depend on any expectations of reciprocity from another person nor on any material rewards from another person.

In the second example, the author was talking about a type of love that he called "sadistic" love where one person gets pleasure from making another person feel bad about themselves.

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